Dating in London – Hold on Tight!

If you have the idea that online dating is a lazy way to date, you’re in for a shock! You need to realise that the online part is only a small part of the whole dating thing. You can’t just go online and stay there, you have at some time to log off, close down the PC and get out on those dates! You’ll be doing that in person, no username, no password, it will be you, the real you. And you had better be ready, cause if you are dating in London using DatingLondon101, the dates are going to come thick and fast.

You can quickly have three 2nd dates from guys/girls who you don’t really fancy and 2 more from people who you fancy like mad. So you’ve got some planning to do. Before starting to use online dating you may have been definitely in the dating slow lane and now you’re going to be switched at breakneck speed into the fast lane! Sex and the city isn’t even in it compared to the situation you may soon find yourself in.

As it is going to be hectic you need to take a life check, are you definitely over the last relationship? Have you stopped wearing your jimmy’s all night long from the moment you get in from work to next morning’s shower, have you stopped listening to James Blunt, have you stopped buying in industrial supplies of Kleenex and choccy bars. If you are sure, you can move on and get dating again, sign up at DatingLondon and begin that new exciting life of dating in London.

Dating in London? Tough Things You Should Know

This advice doesn’t just apply to people dating in London but to online daters everywhere. You need to get streetwise or you may get hurt (emotionally I mean)

1. He/she will probably not look like their photo, this is a fact of life, everyone tries to use the best pic they can of themselves. They may just look better if you’re lucky!

2. You have 10 people who have listed you as favourite, fact is that the one you hoped may call you is the one who doesn’t! Get over it and reply to the next best.

3. A lot of people fall in love with the emails sent to them and think that is the real person. Try NOT to fall in love until you meet the person who has sent all those lovely emails. You could fall instantly out of love!

4. If you think that after a lovely first date the other guy/girl is going to take their details down from the dating in London site, think again. They have paid for 3 months and will probably keep looking just in case someone better comes along. This again is the reality of online dating. Work hard at being the one he/she doesn’t want to lose.

5. Prepare yourself! You will meet some nutters, freaks and weirdoes!! It happens, just make sure you meet in a safe place and have an escape plan( a friend who will ring you after an hour where you can pretend she is your mother telling you that Aunt Edna is dying and to get home quick!) if the date is going well you can just act naturally and say you are having a lovely time.

6. You will click on people who don’t click back, who don’t answer your emails, move on and be glad it didn’t go further.

OK, this all seems a bit depressing but it’s just a reality check, none of it may happen to you but just be prepared. Do this and you will probably have a lovely time dating in London or anywhere else

Some People are Looking for Adult Dating

Although the vast majority of people using dating sites are looking for straightforward dates there are a number of people who are looking for a special type of dating and most of these come into the category of adult dating where the only requirement is to meet someone for casual sex. You may or may not approve of this but the fact is there is quite a large minority (both men and women) looking for just this type of dating.

Although we do not provide for this type of dating on this site we recognize the need and can confidently point people to a site which is set up for just this need in the UK, their name is AdultFinder and they have a good reputation for privacy and careful maintenance of customer records.

Dating in London for the first time? Meet Your Online Date in Safety

Here are some common sense safety tips for meeting your online date in person. Your instincts will play a strong role in keeping you safe too, so listen to them and take action if you feel uncomfortable or alarmed at any time. Remember, there’s also a good chance that your date is perfectly genuine. Tread a sensible line between optimism and caution and your date will be safe and enjoyable.

Meet when you’re ready:

Don’t be pressured into meeting your online date. One of the big attractions of online dating is that you can find out the important stuff – be sure there’s a real possibility for a relationship – up front, so take your time and make the most of it. Your offline date should confirm and enhance your feelings, not lead to disappointment, or nasty surprises!

Meet in a public place:

Hopefully most of you are yawning at this. However, when you’ve built up some trust online, and happen to share an interest in lonely country walks, say, a lonely country walk might seem like a great idea for a first date. Give yourself a severe reality check when arranging a first date. First dates should always be in well-populated, public places.

Meet in a familiar or well-known area:

You need to be able to find your way home, or back to your hotel room, quickly and easily. Don’t travel into unfamiliar neighborhoods and if you’ve traveled to an unfamiliar city to meet your date, choose a hotel in a central area that’s well known to taxi drivers and locals.

Meet in a place where you’re not well known:

For first dates, avoid favorite hangouts where everyone knows you and your business. Your date can return to pry information out of your favorite bartender or friends, or turn up uninvited – bad news if you decide not to pursue the relationship.

Travel independently:

Revealing where you live, where you’re staying or getting into a strange vehicle puts you at risk. Be sure to make your own way to and from your date, and don’t be persuaded otherwise. If you make your travel arrangements ahead of time, you’ll have a good excuse for refusing any offers to pick you up or drop you home, and if your date’s half the person you think they are, they’ll respect your independence and caution.

Make your own arrangements:

Don’t let your date take over and make all the decisions about where you go, what you do, and, if you’re traveling from another city, where you stay. Make your own travel arrangements (I’ve said this already, but it’s important), book your own hotel, and make sure you and your common sense get to play a big role in deciding when and where your date takes place.

Tell a friend or relative about your date:

Make sure someone knows who you’re meeting (their full name and phone number), when, where and at what time you expect to be back.

Take your cell phone:

If you don’t have a cell phone, borrow one. Arrange for someone to call you at a certain time to check up on how your date is going, and how you’re feeling about it. Agree beforehand on some phrases that will let them know, without giving the game away to your date, whether it’s going well or whether you need to put a pre-arranged escape plan into action.

Don’t drink too much:

Sure, a drink can calm your nerves but be careful not to overdo it and lose your ability to make safe and sensible decisions.

Leave if you feel uncomfortable:

You’re excited about your date, you want it to go well, to give it every chance of success but (and it’s a big but) don’t let this tempt you into ignoring or excusing the fact that something doesn’t feel right. If it doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t. Trust your instincts, admit it and get out of there. If necessary, enlist the help of a waiter or manager or some other person that can help you make a get away, perhaps feigning a call from home or showing you an alternative way out of the building. Remember though, it’s not necessary to explain yourself to your date. Simply leave.

Watch for strange behavior:

When you meet offline, dating should fall into a natural, comfortable pattern. Stop dating if it doesn’t. For instance, if your date always wants to meet some distance from where they live or work, is reluctant to introduce you to friends or family, or has strange rules about how and when you call each other, something’s very wrong.

Copyright 2004 Caroline Mackenzie

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